Friday, January 11, 2008
True love is the foundation of integrity, honesty and worship between two individuals. Dearth of any of this pillar may perhaps lead to maladjustment in a relation. True love has prevailed over self-centeredness, egocentricity and bodily desires. It is a feeling of serenity and completeness that gives a reason to live not for one’s own self but for someone else. True love seeks no condition or wish fulfillment. A person in true love learns to forfeit and not hunt for his own benefit. It is not about yearning to get married to your love but to watch him or her getting married to the person they love. It is entirely committed to the welfare of the other. True love cannot be experienced by each and everyone on this earth. All of us fall in love with a particular person in our life but very less could actually get united. But there is yet more lack of strong hearts in this world who can sacrifice their love with a beam on their face.
The world seems to be tired, upset, secluded and thwarted. A human soul could be utterly fatigued with the long-laden melancholy of life and the reason is the lack of love which is the major strength of human being to stay alive. Why should we want to live tomorrow? It is for the divine love that gives us a motive to breathe today. We want to live forever because of that love we are bestowed with by our loved ones. We want to be loved by him or her today, tomorrow and forever. We want to live because there is someone who loves us, someone we wish to see whenever we’ll open our eyes as well as love him or her back.
True love is all about loving someone just because they are themselves and not their actions and values. True love never asks for any amendment of your traits but accepts you as you are along with your positive and negative attributes. Being in true love is such a divine feeling where you will unsurprisingly lay down your own comfort for the safety and happiness of your love. True love doesn’t yearn for reciprocation from your love. It is a strength in itself that gives you selfless valor even at the weakest end of your life. True love is also termed as unconditional love which is a strong bond between lovers or spouses which is claimed to be at a much higher point than bodily desires. Some symptoms confirm that you are in True Love. A simple smile on your lover’s face will take you to ecstasy. You are not bothered about anyone who is attracted to you; you’ll have only one yearning to rest in your lover’s arms, no matter how hard your day has gone but just a thought of your lover will bring an elated smile on your face, irrespective of all the flaws in your lover, they’ll seem to be the perfect human to you. True love is all about making sacrifices and giving yourself completely without any expectation. Finding and keeping love is not just a romantic idea; it is crucial for our survival. No human can continue to exist without love. It is the heart of a human body at the arrest of which one will be lost in the realm of isolation. A person will not expire if he is deprived of love but will live the life of a deceased.
Love is god’s most wondrous gift man has ever received. True love is not about spending some moments with your love, it’s not about lending an ear to what others say about both of you; it’s not about asking for the anything in return. True love happens when you feel that your life is miserable and meaningless with that person, when you feel distressed and lonely not because you miss your love but because you are worried whether your love is in need of you. True love is always getting involved in a physical attachment but experience an overwhelming feeling of pure bliss when the two of you will kiss. You will agree to give up everything without moaning just to see an everlasting smile on your lover’s face. You sense a feeling of joy with the thought of doing something for your love. When true love happens you will want to hold your love in your arms for all the eternity, your lips will be locked forever in your warm instances and you’ll wish that your time with your love never ends.
True love is not always about having a candle dinner at the weekend or exchanging the most expensive gifts with your love. It means much more than that. Love cannot be measured with materialistic chattels neither can it possessed by speaking romantic rhymes. Age, looks, social status, what others think about you two, all these societal issues doesn’t matter in True Love. It is an unconditional feeling that inspires, revives and even sometimes hurts. You don’t have reasons for loving, you just do. True Love is the soul’s recognition of it’s counter-point in another, when you will find that counter-point, all the knowledge that you were loaded with will seize to exist and you will only see that counter-point. The sometimes euphoric, sometimes agonizing bliss from heaven is known as True Love.
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Is it OK to Have Sex for the Sake of REALLY Good Sex... With No Relationship Commitments?
The Question: I recently broke up with my boyfriend and father of my 2 year old daughter. I'm 35 and he's 28. He is now seeing a 22 year old girl for the use of her truck - I believe. He says that he still loves me (maybe just for the sex) and we have continued to have sex since breaking up. He is, however, very irresponsible in a relationship. The sex is great between us and I have a hard time turning him down because I do still love him. I think that I may want him back because I can't stand to see him with someone else or to think that he is sleeping with another person.
Should I stay with him just for the sex? Or should I make him make a choice of getting no sex unless he's willing to make the relationship work between us? What should I do?
The Answer: Our answer to this question may seem controversial to some, but here goes...
What is a relationship?
A relationship can be defined as "a state of connectedness between people". Because of the fact that the two of you have a child together, you will always have a parental relationship and parental responsibilities. The choice that each of you have to make is what type of relationship you want in addition to being the parents of your daughter.
Here are just a few ideas:
An intimate relationship is a relationship with a great deal of physical and/or emotional intimacy - romantic or passionate love and attachment with or without sex.
A casual relationship (sometimes referred to as "friends with benefits") is the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal.
Friendship, is a relationship that results when two people have found a common ground and consists of mutual love, trust, respect, and unconditional acceptance of one another.
I recommend that the two of you have a heart to heart, open and honest discussion about what you both want and are willing to accept around your relationship as adults and your relationship as parents.
It is critical to check your ego at the door.
We have been known to use a code word or a physical object to use as a flag when someone's ego starts flaring up. Once that happens, any intelligent conversation is over. If someone's ego takes over the conversation (you'll know when this happens by tone and number of snipes the other person starts making), take a 15 minute break in separate rooms to allow yourselves to cool down. And then resume the conversation.
A brief discussion on jealousy.
Jealousy can be defined as "a boundary-setting custom developed for limiting sexual access to those relationships that a group defines as important." It's that feeling of fear, suspicion, or envy over something you perceive as your possession.
I'm going to get on my soap box for a moment here...
In modern society, many people mistake a romantic relationship, for a purchase contract. If we could simply understand that we do not and should not 'own' or try to control another person, there would be no jealously.
Jealousy is a very primitive emotion based entirely on fear and the desire to control other people and their actions - When in reality, the only real control that we have is over ourselves and our actions.
Jealousy and fear are engrained in our society and encouraged by governments and religions to exercise control over the population. That's why when you get married, you sign a "marriage contract", to take possession of your spouse... (I warned you this was going to be a little controversial.)
Here's an idea. Try replacing jealousy, control, and ownership with forgiveness, acceptance, and unconditional love in all of your relationships. You'll be much happier in all areas of your life once you let go of fear and wanting to control others. Really - give it a try...
Staying with him just for sex.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with having sex just for the sake of good sex! IF you're both emotionally mature enough to enjoy it without feeling guilty or trying to make the other person feel guilty.
Take a step back to understand the reasons that you want to have sex with each other. Are you trying to fill an emotional void? Trying to hold on to previous feeling about each other? Do you simply enjoy it? What are your personal reasons? Make sure they resonate true to you and actually bring you joy. Don't do it for the wrong reasons.
Making him choose between sex and relationship.
My advice on this one - Don't ever push a man, or anyone else, into a corner by forcing a decision like that, they'll run every time :-).
Instead, take some time to REALLY get to know each other on an honest and very deep level. This is that heart to heart discussion that I mentioned at the beginning.
If you can't be honest with each other, you lose from the beginning.
In summary...
Spend some time with yourself to understand what you really want out of the relationship.
Talk to each other openly and honestly about what type of relationship your both want and will agree upon - and stick to it.
Replace jealousy, control, and ownership with forgiveness, acceptance, and unconditional love.
Stress and Sex
Sex is part of our daily lives. Between work-related deadlines and bills coming in by the handful, it’s no wonder that even the strongest feel the pressure. Most men have an unshakable confidence in their ability to take everything that life throws at them and then some, but this is not always the case.
While you’re thinking that you’re on top of everything and not needing any kind of help, you might be actually shifting the pressure to those who stick by you: lovers, relatives and friends. Even though you may not feel it, it’s a good idea to take a good look around once in a while and see if things are still the same.
One of the surest signs of stress is the feeling that things were better some time ago. If you’ve been staring out the window, wondering where the free time for books, music, walks in the park and love went, then you’re having too much on your plate and you are stressed. If you feel you no longer enjoy certain things like you used to, then you may suffer from stress.
Unfortunately sex also gets between you and the lady you love. Are you cranky at home on a daily basis? Do you fight often and over things that are not really that important? Are you still having sex often and is it still good for both of you? If you’ve answered no to these questions, then you might wish to review your choices.
Since going out of control in the face of stress and telling various people (bosses, policemen, rude individuals and chatty salespeople) what you really think about them is not usually an option, you keep it inside while in public and dump it at home. Stress comes between you and the pleasures of life, such as sex, good music and good food.
Sex is a great way of curing stress, but most times sex is actually the victim of stress. Stressed people have no time to take things slow. They have neither the time, nor the inclination to really savour the moment and make it fun for the other. In the end, sex becomes a sort of routine that nobody really likes.
However, things don’t have to be this way. Even though the job is a bore and the boss is driving you wild, even though bills are piling up and all sorts of problems seem to literally come out of the blue, you can still relax. Just shut the whole world out and make an effort to forget about your problems. Are you in a hurry? So what? Whatever it is, it can wait.
Have sex often. It makes dopamine run loose around your brain and puts a smile on your face. Go running in the park. Instead of working late, go out with your friends. Exercise helps your body produce more testosterone, which in turn helps you handle stress better. Socializing takes your mind off deadlines and other problems. Just go and spend an evening with the friends. Everything else can wait.
Give yourself presents from time to time. It may be an extra half hour of sleep. Or some food you really like. Or a movie. It doesn’t really matter what it is, but chose things that make you enjoy your life more. And learn to unwind. Put some soft music on the stereo and sink in a comfortable armchair. Put your feet up and drift away. It’s the best thing for you.
If it’s stress or any other factor which is killing your sex life then Lovecentria™ has the content, features and advice that you need to really make the difference in the bedroom. For more information just visit LoveCentria.com.
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